Having boyfriend issues...

I am still really having a hard time with my oldest step daughters boyfriend. I will not get into talking about him,because I am not too fond of him, but he seems to be spending way too much time at our house. Im not even sure if my daughter is making good grades or not, and she sure does not keep a clean room. She is only 15..too young for a boyfriend, she has no chores, and gets complete and boundry free privliges that no one else recieves, all from her dad. How do I deal...REALLY what do I do to cope. I have talked to her dad about it, but he just gets offended...help, really, I need some bit of advice and confidence...

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Permalink Reply by Susan J. Hetrick on March 20, 2009 at 1:30pm: I'm curious as to why you say she's too young for a boyfriend at age 15? I have four kids, ages 16, 15, 14 and 10. Only the 10-year-old hasn't had a "friend" yet. Kids are going to have girlfriends or boyfriends whether the parents think they are old enough or not, so I think it's better to be accepting of the relationship and try to get to know the "friend" as much as possible. It seems to me that it's all in how you look at it. If the boyfriend is spending a lot of time at your home, that could be a GOOD thing - you and your husband can keep an eye on them, interact with them, engage them in conversations, even talk about boundaries! It's better than your stepdaughter spending all her time with her boyfriend someplace else where there is no supervision, right? Try to get to know the boyfriend - he just might be a confused kid wanting to be understood by someone. That someone could be you.; ▶ Reply to This